Lead Your Life
Surrendering to the flow and having your life lead you from one adventure to the next can be a beautiful experience. Over time and with a focus on personal and professional growth, you may reach a tipping point where your life begins to pull you along at a pace that isn’t quite as peaceful. I often use the tag line, “Design a life you love.” In practicing this very intentionally and facilitating experiences that support my clients in doing the same, I’ve learned that it may come with some unintended consequences. As we begin to reach our goals and live realities that were once only dreams, certain side effects may occur if we are not careful. In essence, when you begin to manifest the life that you want, there’s a chance that it might drag you. When you make your intentions clear and do the work to support your growth toward your goals it opens up a world of possibilities. Our natural tendency may be to say “yes” to everything because that is what we wished for, right? As with any exchange, there is always a cost. Agreeing to all of the abundant aspects of your new life may look like saying "no" to some of the things you may not want to give away. These include time, energy, attention, identity, and more. As you shift into spaces that you consider to be what success looks like for you, ask yourself, “What is this costing me?” Once you’ve identified the cost, the next question to ask yourself is, “Is this an investment I am willing to make?” Here are a few strategies to support you as you shift from having life drag you, to leading your life. Consider the Cost. When I began my journey of designing a life that I loved, it was because I was unhappy with where I was in my life at that time. I wanted more financial freedom and a fulfilling personal and professional life. Back then, the cost was my current social life and friend group. There was a time where that lifestyle was exactly what I needed, but that time had passed. I knew that to achieve my next desired level in life, I needed to let it all go. That was the cost, and as hard and in some cases heartbreaking as it was, I was willing to pay it. In the last few years, as my business began to grow exponentially, I realized that the cost became time with my family and loved ones. After the pandemic reminded me of the preciousness and fragility of life, I decided that the cost was far too expensive, and I scaled back to a focus on the things that mattered most. Assess Your Capacity. I just finished a strategic thinking call with my accountability partner. We were preparing for a day we’ve set aside where we will do some strategic planning for our companies as they grow and change in the new year. I asked her, “What is your ‘No’ filter?” I asked this because as our talent and opportunities grow, the amount of time we are allotted in a day stays the same. This means that we will have to have some sort of filter in place, otherwise we may fall back into saying "yes" to every offer that comes our way. Your filter may include the type of people you want to work with or be in service to, days and times throughout the week when you know you are at your best, or using your values to make sure the work is in alignment with what you believe in and who you are at your core. Revisit Your Values. If you’ve been following my work for a while, you know I continue to come back to values. I support my clients in identifying these at the beginning of our work together intentionally. As they are faced with new and bigger decisions, I ask them to revisit their values and do an alignment check. Is this new opportunity, relationship, or choice in or out of alignment with these standards you’ve set for how you want to show up in the world? This week I challenge you to assess how the flow of your life is feeling. Are you feeling stuck, stopped, or stagnant? Is it leading you at a leisurely pace? Is it dragging you at high speeds leaving you with little time to pause or focus on what matters most? If the tempo is not a beat that you can keep in step and rhythm with, it may be time to take back the reins and lead your life. Manifestation Affirmations I am leading a life of my own design. I am flowing with the rhythm of my life. I am investing my energy into opportunities that are aligned with my why.
Master Your Mindset to Manifest a Life You Love. Most Sincerely, Monica Marie Jones Your Soul Journey Guide