Think about how often you hear the question, “How are you doing?”
Now, think about how often you give or receive an honest answer.
So, let me ask you this, “How are you…really?”
When we are seeking guidance or facing an important decision, questions are often the answer. Taking real time to ask engaging questions followed by authentic answers can unlock the door to all that we’ve been looking for.
Let’s start with three questions that can help us to navigate our everyday encounters.
What do I really need in this moment?
Behavior is the language of needs. This shows up for me when I find myself eating food that does not nourish my body and ends up making me feel worse after I've eaten it. When I check in with myself, I realize that I wasn’t actually hungry, I was just tired or sad, and instead of getting what I really needed, I resorted to the habit of mindless consumption. If I had paused to ask myself this simple question, I would have discovered that what I really needed was rest. Our body constantly sends us signals about our unmet needs. We must align our minds so that we are taking actions that get our actual needs met and not mistaken.
What happened to you?
Other people can affect our energy and have a huge influence on our day. Unfortunately, we can’t always avoid the ones who impact us in a negative way. Connected to the previous question, knowing that there is a need behind every behavior can help us to navigate these types of interactions. What we really want to ask is, “What’s wrong with you?” Instead, we can internally and rhetorically wonder, “What happened to you?”
If you are breathing, it’s likely that you have experienced some form of trauma, so what you are enduring from others may be related to their past adverse experiences. What if we replaced the energy depleted feelings of annoyance, irritation and frustration with this simple question? We may not be able to control their actions, but we can absolutely control how we respond to and think about them. We don't even need their answer, we just need the increased empathy and understanding for them to increase our own peace and shift our perspective.
How do I want to feel today?
We have the power to set the tone for our day. We may wake up feeling one way, but in an instant, we can decide how we want to feel and shift it with our words. When I’m not in an ideal mood, I write the words that represent how I want to feel to guide my day. For instance, when I feel nervous or unsure about presenting new content for an important client, I will write words or affirmations that represent how I want to feel such as, Confident, Competent and Knowledgeable.
After you have written your words, put “I am” in front of them to transform them into affirmations. Say them out loud after writing them and now they have double the superpowers. This week I challenge you to identify three powerful questions that you can ask yourself to help you navigate whatever you are facing in your life. Make space and time to get honest with yourself and understand others by letting questions be the answer. Manifestation Affirmations I am clear.
I am aligned, body and mind. I am honoring my basic needs.
Master Your Mind + Master Your Body + Master Your Money = Manifest a Life You Love
Most Sincerely,
Monica Marie Jones Your Soul Journey Guide www.MonicaMarieJones.com